Tuesday, 16 February 2010

Putri

Me and husband never plan to adopt a child, somehow... here we are.

Actually she came into our life since August last year. She and her mother had nowhere to go. But that time we only meant to help, temporarily giving them shelter. Somewhere in December, they left.

Until January, we learnt that the mother is willing to hand her child to a couple, but then the couple cancelled the plan because of unavoidable circumstances. Unfortunately the mother already left, so she has nobody to take care of her. Cutting the story short, Putri finally ended up with us.

A child is always welcomed into our house; but I never thought it would be this way. I thought I would have 9 months to get prepared, mentally, emotionally, financially etc. What happen now is like our life crashing into something in just a blink of an eye. Maybe things would be smoother if we do have plan for it, but in this case, the decision is made up just because an innocent child really needs a home urgently.

Until today, me and hubby still haven't speak much seriously about the matter, we didn't declare anything, or discuss anything; like, who's going to take care of the baby when we go to work?

We're still adjusting.

So I've been carrying Putri wherever I go. To office. Bank. Post office. Buying groceries. Etc. I put a pillow on the passengers's seat, and secure her with the safety belt, but she don't want to stop crying. So I have to pull over, put her on my lap and drive with one hand. Owh, what a scary situation.

Now my car is equipped with a baby car-seat but when not driving, I still need to carry her all the time.

I do feel like breaking down sometimes. Office. Home. Stamp. Baby. I have a hard time adjusting. I don't want to be over-ambitious, I can never replace her real mother and perhaps I would never be the best Mom for her, but as long as she's with me, I will try my best to provide her love and protection. As long as she needs me.

So everyone.
Meet Putri Nur Summayah. She's only 8 months old.

And Putri, this is Mommy's blog. Meet my blog readers.

26 comments:

Azlina Abdul said...

Mango! Congratulations! She is adorable! I know it must be really a great challenge to care for a baby and I pray that you will have the strength to do so...semoga Allah kuatkan semangat you ye....all the best!!!

nurarinab said...

believe me,even a new mom will need time to adjust her new daily routine.be strong ok!Allah syg manusia yang mengasihi anak2 yatim ;)

Aneesah said...

Aww! So this is the story. :D She's adorable. May Allah bless you both for your kindness and generosity. <3 It will be wonderful seeing her grow up.

|| syazwaniadnan || said...

oh my, i'm speechless reading this entry.

may Allah bless you n your husband for taking care of this cute adorable Putri Nur Sumayyah.

n may Allah grant her a tough heart as real Sumayyah had long long time ago.

Ummi-Izah said...

Assalamualaikum Mai..First of all ummi wants to congratulate you utk anugerah yg tak terhingga ...believe me setiap apa yg terjadi ada hikmahnya and kemuliaan dan keikhlasan hatimu insya allah ada ganjarannya..Banyakkan bersabar dan byk berbincang dgn husband and things will run smoothly..Even kalau ibu sendiri pun ada byk masalah nak adjust new life...Bila Mai tgk all the new things she pick up then Mai akan rasa puas..so take it easy dear friend..

TiniHani said...

mango.. congrats.. setiap anak ada rezeki yang tersendiri.. biasalah dia menangis sebab nak perhatian.. satu hari nanti dia akan menghargai pengorbanan mango dan suami.. mesti seronokkan lihat telatah dia membesar :)

Syamilia said...

cutenyer...hehe

My Botang said...

Hi, I am overwhelmed after reading your story. As many have advised, take it easy, be patient and hopefully, slowly things will get better..

.•º lilmissmei º•. said...

Awww... I understand now why you're busy. Best of luck dear. Things do happen for a reason so hang in there yeah? Babies do tend to be a handful but lets not forget the loads of giggles they provide too =)

SOHO Mama said...

Mommy Mango! Congratulations! From the comments that you've penned on my blog..yes I know how hard adjustments can be. Me, a mommy for nearly 10 years pun masih meng-adjust sana sini..
Putri crying in the car reminds me of Armand when he was small. He can cry and cry in his carseat while I try very hard to concentrate on getting home. He liked to be held a lot too..which explains all the babywearing gear I have :D
Mango, believe me, we're ALL still learning :)

kak ngah said...

comelnya,...jagalah putri summayyah sebaik munkin.pastiada rahmat disebaliknya...siapa tahu putri akan bawa tuah pada awak...bersabar dan berbincanglah sebaik munkin dgn suami,yg pasti awak kenakuat kan semangat,cekalkan hati...sepertisaya walaupun punya anak tapi terpisah, sebulan sekali baru dapat bersua...hargaila peluang yang awak ada...

Miyyah said...

Hi Putri!

*virtually hugging her*

I'm one of your mommy's blog readers! Nice meeting you! Stay cute okay!

euphoria said...

Zikr and hold her close to your heart for her to listen to the beat and familiarity will breed, love will grow. InsyaAllah.

edi said...

mango,
being a mom is not an easy task.. then being a mom to somebody else's child is a BIGGER task.. i hope u're strong and patient and know, that Allah is giving u a chance to take care of somebody special. i can feel it must have been so hard for u and your husband to adjust to the situation.. be strong ok! and congratulations on your new bundle of joy!
love,edi

mangosteenskin said...

Terima kasih kepada semua yang memberi komen! Kata-kata perangsang yang anda semua berikan benar2 memberi ketenangan dan menaikkan semangat. Ya, Mango dan suami pun percaya setiap yg berlaku pasti ada hikmahnya. Mungkin Allah beri pertolongan juga, kerana menjaga Putri tidak begitu sukar, dia seorang bayi yang sihat, pintar dan lasak. Jika dia menangis pun tidak sukar untuk dipujuk, cukup sekadar memeluk atau cuma baring disisinya. Bila dia meragam tu biasalah kan, baby.

:)

Incik RestNrilekS said...

Salam Manggo,

apa khabar Putri, wah putri 8 bulan dah pandai2 intai blog ye : )

I am sure you ll do great Manggo. Tahniah dan seperti yang lain telah maklum, semua yang terjadi ada hikmahnya.

I am happy for you Manggo : )

syntheticsoul said...

WAHHHH! Mommy manggis! instant momma rupanya kau skrg ni!... wishing u and your family the best!

AbGJaS said...

Hi mango,

Begitu terharu abgjas membaca post ini. Sesungguhnya mango dan hubby punya hati besar dan mulia. Mudah2an beroleh rahmat dan redha Allah.

Utk putri, welcome to the family... and shall i say 'meet unclejas'.. hahaha..

Bee said...

Milan this is quite a big surprise! I really really thought that she was Beth's tadi.. since I haven't been reading any blogs for the past few weeks I really didn't have any heads up hahahaha....

Putri is so cute and so guai! I adore her! You shouldn't worry too much, I am sure you can do this! God will not give you anything that you can' handle. Trust me. Things will fall into places - if it's meant to be.

I am so jealous. Now you have something that I would really really love to have - A FREE MODEL!!!! So go ahead and take lots of baby pictures!!! :D

|| sTaRLoveR || said...

smoga ALLAH bagi balasan yang setimpal untuk kamu berdua..
Ada rahmat, ada hikmah semua nih terjadi dekat awak..

b strong..

salam ukhwafillah..

syaaz said...

Salam...

Ada hikmah di sebalik kejadian yang telah ditetapkan olehNya....

Hubby selalu pesan kat sy, anak2 ni penyampai rezki dari yang Maha Esa...Makin ramai, makin lebih rezki kita InsyaAllah...

Memang kadang2 kita xtahu yg kita ni dah bersedia atau belum nak jd ibu even kita dah duk atas deliverbed kat hospital skali pun. but once kita da lalui, kita akan matang kerana ms tu lah kita blajar n prepare 2 b a mom...

anyway, congrats... Moga Allah permudahkan urusan hamba2Nya yang bersabar...Amin...

Veda Murthy said...

hey MEL,

congratulations! she is so adorable!you think u cannot replace her mother but i definitely think UR HER TRUE SUPERMOTHER. hats off to u for such a noble thought! and best wishes from me 2 u n family coz God has chosen a perfect family for Putri! :-)

Regards n hugs,
Veda

Ida said...

sama baya dengan anak kak ida...congrats M!

melorr said...

omg..Allah will always bless you dear! She's so cute!

I really touch when you own a car seat! Eventho you can never replace as her real mother but...really for sure you're her Angel. :) InsyaAllah. We pray the best for you. Amin.

Norliza said...

kiss me fr putri... ;)

khemy said...

Insyaallah, you'll be fine..